Slut Shaming Must Stop

By Skylar Werner

Many people nowadays have been shamed for a surprising variety of things: height, hobbies, backgrounds — no matter what it is, people get shamed too often.

Slut-shaming is one of the most common forms of shaming that there is, and one of the most harmful.

Girls have been taunted at school or even outside of school because of what they do with their own body. Not many people have heard about it because who would want to talk about themselves being called a “slut”?

HHS staff have answered some questions on this issue of  slut-shaming. School social worker Ms. Millard and school psychologist Ms. Trocolar, have told us, “The best way to cope with this issue is to surround yourself with people who love you for you no matter what you do.”

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Ms. Trocolar and Ms. Millard

They suggested that having positive people in your life who can help you defend against taunting by others makes it easier to cope.

School Psychologist Dr. Dimitry and school Social Worker Ms. Shepard both believe shaming someone is way worse than embarrassment.

“Embarrassment is over in a short amount of time but shaming actually goes to the ‘core’ and makes you think it defines you,” Ms. Shepard explains.

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Dr. Dimitry and Ms. Shepard

Shaming doesn’t actually define you. People who shame others are most likely insecure or struggling with their own identity, according to Dr. Dimitry, so having someone call you a certain name has nothing to do with who you are but makes a significant comment about who they are.

School Social Worker Mr. Sanchez and Student Assistance Counselor Ms. Koonin acknowledged that as unfair as it is, slut shaming is mostly a female issue. Men get “praised” for having a lot of women, Mr. Sanchez pointed out, but women get put down for having lots of men. “It’s sexist and not fair at all,” Ms. Koonin said.

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Mr. Sanchez and Ms. Koonin

Ms. Shepard said, “Women should be treated the same and people should not care what a person does with his or her own body.”

Slut-shaming needs to stop with this generation. Everyone has control of what they do with their body and it shouldn’t be anyone else’s business. What you think of yourself is so much more important. As long as you know your own worth and surround yourself with positive people, no one can hurt you.

Shaming Someone for Their Interests is Harmful

By Carolina Reyes

            Famed psychiatrist Karl A. Menninger once said,“The voice of the intelligence is drowned out by the roar of fear. It is ignored by the voice of desire. It is contradicted by the voice of shame. It is biased by hate and extinguished by anger. Most of all it is silenced by ignorance.”

Shaming has been an issue for a long time and as the years have passed, it seems to be getting easier and easier to shame people for small reasons.

In high school, teenagers like to form groups; you have the popular clique, the fringe group, the athletic group, the friendship circle, the nerds, the geeks, and then those who are seen as loners.

Most people feel the need to change themselves in order to fit in. For some reason society doesn’t allow anyone to be too different. HHS School Psychologist, Dr. Dimitry said, “If there are people who like things that aren’t the norm in a society, then other people will shame them because they don’t know how to react towards that person.”

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HHS School Psychiatrist Dr. Dimitry

Teens in high school sometimes think that it is okay to make others feel weird. It makes them critique and question those who aren’t into the same things, for example, the same kind of music, or reading, or a certain sport, or a sexual preference, or career goal. 

People don’t really understand the pain that other people go through after being shamed for their interests, but it is significant. HHS School Social Worker, Ms. Millard says, “Some of the reasons that people shame others is because they try so hard to not focus on their life and make themselves feel better.” People tend to blend in so that no one shames them but they could also shame others because they feel uncomfortable that those others are so willingly open about what they like and don’t care about what everyone says.

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HHS School Social Worker Ms. Millard

Things can always get better. If people are being shamed for liking certain things then they should try to express how they feel to someone else.

HHS SChool Psychologist Ms. Trocolar says, “Support groups can help you get through this hard time and talking to someone can allow you to not feel alone.”

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HHS School Psychologist Ms. Trocolar

No one should be dealing with these kinds of problems alone. Hopefully people realize that it’s okay to have different interests and to have the freedom to be who they really are without being judged.