By Skylar Werner
Many people nowadays have been shamed for a surprising variety of things: height, hobbies, backgrounds — no matter what it is, people get shamed too often.
Slut-shaming is one of the most common forms of shaming that there is, and one of the most harmful.
Girls have been taunted at school or even outside of school because of what they do with their own body. Not many people have heard about it because who would want to talk about themselves being called a “slut”?
HHS staff have answered some questions on this issue of slut-shaming. School social worker Ms. Millard and school psychologist Ms. Trocolar, have told us, “The best way to cope with this issue is to surround yourself with people who love you for you no matter what you do.”
Ms. Trocolar and Ms. Millard
They suggested that having positive people in your life who can help you defend against taunting by others makes it easier to cope.
School Psychologist Dr. Dimitry and school Social Worker Ms. Shepard both believe shaming someone is way worse than embarrassment.
“Embarrassment is over in a short amount of time but shaming actually goes to the ‘core’ and makes you think it defines you,” Ms. Shepard explains.
Dr. Dimitry and Ms. Shepard
Shaming doesn’t actually define you. People who shame others are most likely insecure or struggling with their own identity, according to Dr. Dimitry, so having someone call you a certain name has nothing to do with who you are but makes a significant comment about who they are.
School Social Worker Mr. Sanchez and Student Assistance Counselor Ms. Koonin acknowledged that as unfair as it is, slut shaming is mostly a female issue. Men get “praised” for having a lot of women, Mr. Sanchez pointed out, but women get put down for having lots of men. “It’s sexist and not fair at all,” Ms. Koonin said.
Mr. Sanchez and Ms. Koonin
Ms. Shepard said, “Women should be treated the same and people should not care what a person does with his or her own body.”
Slut-shaming needs to stop with this generation. Everyone has control of what they do with their body and it shouldn’t be anyone else’s business. What you think of yourself is so much more important. As long as you know your own worth and surround yourself with positive people, no one can hurt you.